My Coping

The reason I’m writing this blog is to offer ways for A Course in Miracles to help with daily life. I needed such help recently.

On May 8, my wife of just 22 days short of 61 years, suddenly passed away. That was not even close to being a daily occurrence. It shook me to my bones. Even now after six weeks I have to pause and take deep breaths. The long time sharing of my life with her is jarred when I see, hear, read or experience something to share, and whoops; she’s not there. Like the full early morning moon just sitting on top of a hill in the distance, or the way I solved a situation we discussed, and I can’t share it with her. All this and besides the everyday things like her cooking, sorting clothes, holding her two dogs – and on and on.

Remember the line in Shawshank Redemption? Andy said, “either get busy dying, or get busy living.” I choose the latter. I follow the advice she gave every day to her many horse loving correspondents, “Trot on.”

Most of all she gave me a great gift. She left this illusory world as she intended: quickly, with no difficulties for anyone to clean up or solve. She suffered for 16 hours with pain she would not assuage, or call EMTs or doctors. Trying to sleep after a restless night she placed her head on a pillow on her desk in front of the laptop she used to connect with her friends, let go, and returned to where none us of have ever left; into the heart of God.

What is there in A Course in Miracles to help cope with her departure and get on living? My certainty that the principle articulated in the above sentence is true.

She is, as spirit, at home with God.

Please keep me and others who have also lost loved ones in your thoughts and prayers.